Debbie McRae, LPC, CSAT — betrayal trauma therapist in Mesa, Arizona, seated in her counseling office
About Debbie McRae

I've spent my career on one of the most painful and most overlooked wounds there is.

My practice is built almost entirely around relational betrayal — what happens to a person when someone they trusted breaks that trust through infidelity, pornography use, narcissistic abuse, or out of control sexual behaviors. It's specific work. And it's the work I've chosen to do.

Message Me "All stories of betrayal are different. The pain is the same."
Licensed in Arizona CSAT-Certified Sex Addiction Therapist EMDR Certified ERCEM Certified Brainspotting Accelerated Resolution Therapy Certified Professional Life Coach (CPLC) Certified Clinical Partner Specialist-C

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Why This Work

The gap in this kind of care is what my practice is built to close.

So often, a woman undone by a discovery (a phone, a confession, a moment that splits her life into before and after) is handed the same general relationship advice you'd give any struggling couple. As if what she's carrying were a communication problem and not what it actually is: trauma.

Betrayal isn't a rough patch. It's a wound to your sense of safety, your trust in your own instincts, your sense of who you are. It deserves a therapist who actually specializes in it, not someone learning the landscape while you sit on the couch trying to explain it from scratch.

Debbie McRae, LPC, CSAT — Betrayal Trauma Therapist in Mesa, AZ
Lead Credential CSAT Certified
Credentials & Training

Trained specifically for this work.

LPC · CSAT · Betrayal Coach · EMDR-Certified

Since 2017, I've specialized in betrayal trauma. I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor and one of the country's Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSAT), a credential that requires advanced specialized training specifically in sexual addiction and its impact on partners, couples, and families. It's not a general therapy — it's focused specifically on understanding and treating the complexities of betrayal and relational rupture.

My work centers on helping women heal from the deep impact of betrayal — whether from their partner's infidelities, pornography use, narcissistic abuse or out of control sexual behaviors. I also specialize in working with couples who want to repair and rebuild their relationship after betrayal, guiding them through the process of healing the rupture in trust, attachment, and emotional safety.

I also run webinars through Seeking Integrity, a nationally recognized organization in the sexual addiction recovery field, and have worked with hundreds of betrayed partners navigating the same pain you're in right now.

All stories of betrayal are different. The pain is the same.

CSAT — Certified Sex Addiction Therapist LPC — Licensed Professional Counselor (AZ) EMDR-Certified Brainspotting (BSP) Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) ERCEM-Certified EFT — Emotionally Focused Therapy Clinical Hypnotherapy Certified Sex Therapist — Univ. of Michigan Certified Professional Life Coach (CPLC) APSATS IITAP Member
How I Work

I work with people in the middle of it.

Not after they've figured everything out. Most of my clients come in during acute pain, not once it's resolved. That's the right time, not too early.

My approach starts with one priority before anything else: stabilizing you. Before the big decisions, before the relationship questions, your nervous system needs to feel safe again. From there, we work through what happened at your pace — using approaches that don't require you to relive every detail in order to heal from it.

My tone is direct, warm, and validating. I won't rush you toward a decision about your relationship, and I won't treat your pain as an overreaction. It isn't one.

Stabilization first

Before anything else, we build your ability to feel safe again — calming the nervous system before any big decisions.

At your pace, in your body

We work through what happened using approaches that don't require you to relive every detail in order to heal.

Direct, warm, and validating

I won't rush you toward a decision about your relationship, and I won't treat your pain as an overreaction. It isn't one.

Beyond the Therapy Room

I'm building something bigger than a one-on-one caseload.

Alongside my private practice, I lead and partner on educational work in the betrayal and sexual-recovery space — including free webinars through Seeking Integrity. It's part of why I'm building healing groups for betrayed partners and couples, where some of the deepest recovery happens.

Ask About Groups One of the most powerful moments in this work is realizing you are not the only one.

You're not alone. Let's do this together.

If you're looking for deeper healing, real recovery, and genuine connection on the other side of this — I want to help you get there. A free 15-minute consultation is all it takes to start.

Message Me You are ready for recovery. Let me guide you on your healing journey.